Reduce Stress ..... Say No! By: Barbara Rose
Have you ever been asked to do something or go somewhere or 'do a favour' and have wanted to say 'no' but said 'yes' instead? Then you'd be in good company! This simple, two-letter word is one of the hardest words to say!
Sometimes we say 'yes' as an automatic response, without actually thinking through the request and what it may entail. This is especially true if the request has been made by our employer, boss or supervisor. It is just as true if the president of our volunteer group asks. And who can resist a family member?
Most of the time we say 'yes' because we don't want to be seen as selfish or mean. And then we find ourselves overcommitted, overburdened, and stressed to the max. Think about it for a moment or two. Is this you? Have you said 'yes' so often at work that you don't know how you're going to you're your own work done?
Have you agreed to a family member's plans even though they coincide with those you have already made for yourself? And will you, as a consequence, miss out on your own plans? And if that is the case, what are you going to do about it?
Fear of rejection and guilt often underline our desire to please, so by saying 'yes' we take the path of least resistance. We say 'yes' because we want to feel useful. We say 'yes' because we want to avoid a confrontation. And then we feel resentful. If you think about it, if we are doing something for someone else (whether we truly want to do it or not), we have to give something up – for instance, time.
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Sometimes we say 'yes' as an automatic response, without actually thinking through the request and what it may entail. This is especially true if the request has been made by our employer, boss or supervisor. It is just as true if the president of our volunteer group asks. And who can resist a family member?
Most of the time we say 'yes' because we don't want to be seen as selfish or mean. And then we find ourselves overcommitted, overburdened, and stressed to the max. Think about it for a moment or two. Is this you? Have you said 'yes' so often at work that you don't know how you're going to you're your own work done?
Have you agreed to a family member's plans even though they coincide with those you have already made for yourself? And will you, as a consequence, miss out on your own plans? And if that is the case, what are you going to do about it?
Fear of rejection and guilt often underline our desire to please, so by saying 'yes' we take the path of least resistance. We say 'yes' because we want to feel useful. We say 'yes' because we want to avoid a confrontation. And then we feel resentful. If you think about it, if we are doing something for someone else (whether we truly want to do it or not), we have to give something up – for instance, time.
Read More at Barbara's Blog Here ...
Empowered Living
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